Attraction

Proximity - Geographic nearness

Mere Exposure Effect: Repeated exposure to something breeds liking

Reciprocal Liking: You are more liking to like someone who likes you

Similarity: Birds of the same feather flock together

Phsyical Attractiveness

Love

Passionate Love: an aroused state of intense positive absorption of another

Compassionate Love: the deep affectionate attachment we feel for those with whom our lives are intertwined

What makes compassionate love work?

- Equity

-Self-disclosure

Altruism: Unselfish regard for the welfare of others

Bystander effect: Willing to help if there are other bystanders around

Social Exchange Theory: the idea that our social behavior is an exchange process, which we maximize benfits and minimize costs

Peacemaking: give people superordinate goals that can only be achieved through cooperation

-Win win situations through mediation

-GRIT (Graduated and Reciprocated Initiatives in Tension Reduction)

Passionate love is said to be more of an intense love that is higher yet compassionate love goes further in the long run